Category:Personal Development

Richard Denny Your Success Coach

Our home life affects pretty much every aspect of our lives and has a huge bearing on the level of enjoyment we experience in our activities on the outside. We lead busy lives these days with members of the family scattering in all directions, coming together for snatches of time. Stress levels can sometimes rocket right off the scale, leading to tension and aggravation.  Times are tough and now almost more than ever in our recent history we need to have a safe haven where we can relax and feel comfortable, loving and loved. Like so many recipes the simplest are often the best and most effective.

Creating a warm, loving, pleasant and comfortable home life isn’t rocket science.  It really boils down to putting our family first – their feelings and how our actions can have a positive effect, or one of destructiveness.

Try these tips and watch the reaction of those in your home, don’t tell just do:

1. Create something to look forward to both as individuals and collectively, get into the habit of having goals that you and your family can enjoy together. It is said that apparently people who play together seem to stay together.
2. Eat together once a day, around a table if possible, or at least make designated family meal days and absolutely at least one meal at weekends when all are there.
3. Listen – less telling and more listening. Teenagers often voice a lot of rubbish as you did, but listen you don’t have to react.  Become a great listener and your family will love you.
4. Actions speak louder than words so lead by example, children and young people NEED role models.
5. Look for the good things in and about each other and give compliments.
6. Try always to have something positive to say. Those meal times together should be fun times with a little bit of laughter so all participants look forward to the time together.
7. Praise is more powerful than criticism, but sadly very hard for some to do.
8. Demonstrate love and kindness.
9. At the end of each day share the good things that have happened during your day, however small or seemingly insignificant.
10. Keep anger out of the house, nobody else forces us to be angry, we allow ourselves to be angry. Anger is for East Enders, but not in your house.

Richard Denny    Your Success Coach

Success of course is different for us all and what we perceive success to be. The one thing that all successful athletes, musicians, singers and self-made millionaires have in common is an attitude (mind-set) of success. They didn’t acquire this after their achievements. So here are a few tips for you to have that mind-set:

1. You must have an objective, a purpose or something you really want to achieve. This becomes your goal or goals, your mind must know exactly what it has to achieve.
2. Make it a habit to be positive, some habits take a while to cultivate and transform into subconscious automatic behaviour. Make it a habit to be positive every day.
3. Use repetition; athletes build muscle by continuous repetition, in a similar way we need to continually send the right messages to the brain. Ten repetitions of a thought will embed that thought into your achievement mechanism.
4. Use positive affirmations’ I can as against I can’t. I am good at ….. as against I’m no good. This may sound ridiculous but I promise it works. What we tell our mind our mind will deliver.
5. Smile, you will find it so much harder to have negative thoughts when you are smiling. ‘A frown brings a wrinkle, a smile brings a twinkle’.
6. Plan doing something towards your success each day. By planning and doing something constructive each day you will progress towards your goal. One of the laws of motivation says ‘seeing ourselves progressing motivates us’.
7. Discard negative thoughts; when you have taken photographs, you discard those out of focus or badly lit you just keep the quality images. Your mind can work the same way, cast out the negative images and replace them with positive ones.
8. Think of problems as challenges; use the word challenge rather than problem. It’s fascinating how our mind positively embraces a challenge whereas a problem is a de-motivator.
9. Before you go to sleep the last thoughts should always be on what you want, never on what you don’t and best of all to include some thankyous for your day and those that have helped you.
10. All of the above thrive on a clear objective and a goal. So you must be absolutely sure what it is you are striving for and that objective must not be money. There is not a millionaire or billionaire who chased money as their goal. Money comes as a by-product of successful achievement.